Getty Images Q: I’m a middle school teacher in a small public school district in Pennsylvania, and I’m going to do my best to explain my problem. No matter what complaint teachers at my school express, my principal seems to find the least satisfying way to resolve it. On the face of it, his interventions are …
The next time she swears, tell her directly that she can’t use that language. By using a joking tone, you’ve been sending a mixed message. So adopt a serious expression and tone, and explain that cursing reflects poorly on her and on the school.
Many people get so bogged down in complaining or fixating on deficits that they forget there’s a healthier alternative to being unhappy. This isn’t about accepting the status quo, it’s about recognizing what’s in your control.
The challenge for you will be recognizing your problematic behaviors, avoiding your triggers and mastering enough self-regulation and interpersonal skills to shift the dynamic. It takes time to learn self-regulation skills.